Those who know me are well aware that the part of me that causes people to feel empathy is dead and buried. No one knows why it’s just the way things are. However, there is one thing that will still cause a deep seated emotional reaction and that is domestic violence. All too often people find themselves in an abusive relationship that is very difficult to escape from. If they do manage to escape the prevailing ‘wisdom’ from support groups is to get a restraining order with the implication that a apiece of paper will keep an abuser at bay.
The sad reality is that the only thing a restraining order really does is give the police and Prosecutors something to put the abuser in prison for after they violate it. Something that in my experience is rarely done. So instead of being protected the victim is given a false sense of security often with disastrous results.
The commercial from Bloomberg and paid shills shows one such disastrous result only it uses a gun. The implication is that stricter laws would protect the abused woman and keep guns away from the abuser. The reality is not only does existing and the proposed law not work, the abuser doesn’t need a gun to kill or seriously injure his weaker victim. Instead such laws can be used to disarm the victim leaving them vulnerable. As an aside I know of one case personally where a stalker sought and obtained a restraining order against their victim disarming them for two weeks (that they wisely spent in hiding) until the court held a full review of the order.
I won’t link to the commercial here but will show one illustrating a better outcome. This one is from Glock and stars Courtney Hope and R. Lee Ermey
The message in this commercial compared to the one from Bloomberg is not lost on the panel over at The View as three out of four agree that having the means to defend yourself in such situations is crucial to one’s survival.
When it comes to domestic violence I agree with Colonel Jeff Cooper who said: “…I would like very much to ensure—and in some cases I have—that any man who offers violence to his fellow citizen begets a whole lot more in return than he can enjoy.” Coming from a man this message may be lost on the abused women out there, that is why it is important that we not only get more women involved in the shooting sports but that we also nurture more female instructors like the Cornered Cat’s Kathy Jackson. With more people like her, we can make a real difference and not just offer meaningless platitudes and pieces of paper.